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So Mr Fry, where is the trigger warning for you being a twat? / 13 April 2016

So Mr Fry, where is the trigger warning for you being a twat?

I used to have respect for you. After your first BBC programme on bipolar, I noticed a sea change in that people were more open about talking about mental health. But from there things steadily deteriorated.

You became a self-appointed spokesperson regarding mental health, despite not experiencing poverty, bad or no housing, benefit cuts, psychiatric abuse or trauma, which more recent studies show contribute to mental ill health and keep people there.

You do not speak for those people and the fact you don’t talk or tackle those things in your mental health work, means in some ways you are doing more harm than good. Not all of us have had the privileged life you have had.

I have been raped as a small child, strangled, shot at, discriminated against because of my colour, sexuality and disability, and I have a serious mental health condition, and I haven’t whinged as much as you, because that’s what you are doing now, isn’t it? You like to think mental ill health is to do with a broken brain, but I think it's more to do with a broken heart. Why break people's hearts further, Mr Fry?

To those people who have had their hearts broken by things in their lives, such as child sexual abuse, I respect your strength in having survived those experiences, being in a society that doesn’t give a shit, and having to deal with idiots like Stephen Fry. You are my heroes, not a privileged twat who likes publicly expressing the ugliest emotion in humanity.  

Comments

Tony G

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19 April 2016

Dawn, Christine, Dolly -- I agree with you over one thing: self-pity can be very difficult to snap out of. But wouldn't you feel wonderful if, magically, self-pity simply disappeared?

Now about the posts. Dolly, Stephen, I admire you both, but in my opinion Stephen wins this round. Self-pity is a symptom of depression (such a vision of hell!), which is so self-destructive, sometimes fatally. Having a bipolar diagnosis, Stephen has suffered a disproportionate share of self-pity, and his family history and intersectional status (gay, bipolar, intelligence, public exposure) must be viewed as something no less significant than the other serious afflictions mentioned here.

Dolly Sen

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20 April 2016

Tony, you have a right to your opinion but I have to respectfully disagree. Mr Fry cannot be a spokesperson for mental health if he doesn't understand the impact of trauma on mental health. It is not just depression that can come about, but psychosis and PTSD. Please read up on the experience and mechanics of triggers on PTSD. If Mr Fry doesn't understand the interaction of trauma and mental ill health, then he should keep his mouth shut, and not pass on ignorance as expertise.

Colin Hambrook

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30 April 2016

Tony - you're clearly of the school of thought who dismiss anyone living with the trauma of abuse as the 'worried well'. The affliction is the judgement of people like you, revelling in ignorance and without a clue as to the realities of life... I would feel wonderful if oppressive, smug attitudes like yours, sitting in judgement from a place of power and privilege magically simply disappeared.

Dawn Quinonstante

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13 April 2016

Hmm

Thanks for your article Dolly, it hits home. It's a reality.

When I criticised Time to Change and MIND for their habitual celeb fawning I was pretty much ostracised by them. Despite being signed up as a 'champion' (which we now know to be - agree with us or be ignored by us) I found I didn't receive invites to local/national events or emails.

There is such a danger in placing a celeb on a pedestal, what happens when they fall off? Fry has demonstrated an arrogant disregard for, and appalling lack of, real Mental Health knowledge with his comments. He shows no understanding of complex PTSD and its effects. Why on earth is he chair of a Mental Health charity?

People look up to folk like him, they see them as someone to aspire to and when their illusions are shattered it can have a seriously detrimental effect on wellbeing.

Am not convinced MIND will give a flying hoojeewotsit because they've been towing the Govt policy line far too long...

Guess we'll watch n see...

Dolly Sen

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20 April 2016

It's all a pile of poo, isn't it?

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